Growing up abdl

Growing up as an AB/DL

Teens who are infantilists are often referred to as teen babies (TB). Generally, adult baby and teen baby are not used in an exclusive manner. Teens who are adult babies are also teen babies. Infantilist teens often struggle with their urges for infantile items, treatment, or behavior. Often, the hardest part of this struggle is telling other people about these feelings - doing so during adolescence can mean social or parental rejection. Teen infantile behavior varies heavily, but is generally simpler than the AB/DL activities of adults.^{[citation needed]}

While feelings of isolation are still a common part of the youths of AB/DLs, a number of online communities have developed, many of which have grown due to the increasing ease of accessing the internet.

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Abdl Practices

Practices

Aside from the many things that AB/DLs would like to do, but cannot, there is an extensive list of practices that they might actually engage in. Some common elements and practices are listed here.

[edit] Diaper usage

A central practice to AB/DL is wearing a diaper. When wearing diapers, many AB/DLs like to urinate in them, and a smaller number^[25], defecate in them. Others do not because they find such practices disgusting, do not enjoy it, do not want to go through the cleanup afterward, or wouldn't be able to without being obvious. Some AB/DLs have difficulty wetting their diapers when they want to, as the result of overtrained bladders or paruresis.

A common compromise between wanting to wear diapers and needing to go about daily life is to wear diapers under normal clothing. When adult babies do so, it is in their everyday mindset, as opposed to an infantile one. A few adult babies wear diapers all the time, and may seek to develop urinary incontinence. The level of enjoyment in wearing diapers all the time is mixed, and it may have lasting effects; some adult babies have found that the enjoyment diminishes rapidly when the need to wear diapers is always present.^[26] Other AB/DLs enjoy wearing diapers intermittently more than they would enjoy wearing them all the time.

[edit] Coming out

A difficult choice that AB/DLs must make involves who to tell about their interests. This offers the possibility of being accepted for who they are, and not having to hide. However, it also includes the risk of disgrace at home, school, and work, or on the Internet

[edit] Finding a "mother" or "father"

A difficult part of life as an AB/DL is finding a compatible spouse. For diaper lovers, the search is difficult because there are few diaper lovers in the general population. Most people aren't particularly aroused by diapers. In contrast, adult babies would be seeking more of a caregiver. This search is hard since the desire to care for an adult baby is rare. Female AB/DLs are not necessarily willing to be mommies. Some AB/DLs are willing to be 'switch' mothers or fathers.

For DLs, there are some prostitutes willing to partake in diaper play. For ABs, there are professional "adult babysitters." Many seek the services of a Professional Dominatrix who specializes in role play activities centered around being the mother or Governess/Nanny figure.

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Hygiene

Hygiene

The male body is less difficult to keep safe from infection caused by messy diaper-play. Use of a diaper for feces risks mess entering the vagina requiring more difficult cleanup and risking infection.

[edit] Femininity

Many AB/DLs seek a feminine role or the aspects of being a baby commonly associated with femininity (soft/fleecy clothing, lace, being seen as cute/attractive, not being seen as threatening etc.) A woman with a love for these can choose normal day-wear that will satisfy most of these desires. For the most part this is not an option for men.

[edit] Stress relief

While both genders suffer many stresses as adults, modern society offers few outlets for stress relief for men. The opportunity to regress to a childlike non-responsible state would seem likely therefore to be more appealing to men than to women.

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Gender Association

Gender association

Particularly amongst sissy-babies, but also amongst some other AB/DLs, the time as a baby may be associated with softness and aspects of life seen as more feminine. This can then show as an AB/DL fetish later in life when trying to unravel unexpressed elements of femininity.

[edit] Gender Mix

There is a strong tendency for AB/DLs to be male. Estimates often quoted seem to claim around 95%. There are a number of reasons suggested for this, including the following...

[edit] Role

The baby role is specifically powerless. Social powerlessness is all too common for women and there can be a need to defend against that. Men are more likely to find powerlessness appealing as a contrast to their normal circumstances.

[edit] Child rearing

The associations women are taught to have with children are in a nurturing role, and are likely to be strongly non-sexual. As a result the sexual connotations of adult-babies are likely to be negative.

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ABDL Origins

Origins

There are many different causes for Paraphilic Infantilism, and most AB/DLs are unaware of any specific reason for their AB/DL nature. Many AB/DLs describe incidents throughout their life from a young age that indicate that the inclination has been with them for a long time. Others discover a joy in it later in life.

[edit] Relief from stress

It seems common for "relief from stress" to be indicated as an important aspect, but it can be hard to determine if the stress results from the AB/DL nature or the AB/DL nature provides an escape from the stress. In either regard the attitude is often that in child-state there are none of the responsibilities of day-to-day life. This may be indicative of difficulties and stresses during toilet training, given that bladder/bowel control is the first responsibility most children are taught.

[edit] Negative incidents

Specific incidents may have occurred during childhood or adolescence that have caused nappies to get a sexual association, or that caused the developing child to feel safer when still in nappies. Examples can include so-called diaper-discipline still sometimes practiced on wayward children/teens, sexual abuse, or even simple chances of circumstance such as loss of a parent at the critical point of development. A number of AB/DL's report developmental delays in their bladder and/or bowel training, such as late bedwetting.

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Sissy babies, Cross-Dressing

Sissy babies, cross-dressing

A sissy baby ^[24] is a male AB/DL who mixes gender play with infantilism. This cross-dressing might involve stereotypical or exaggerated "little girl" clothing, such as frilly panties or dresses. Sissies are not necessarily transsexual in that, while some might be expressing an alter ego that is a baby girl, they might not wish to be an adult woman at other times.

A separate group enjoys the masochistic demasculinization of being dressed as baby girl, analogous to non-AB/DL masochists who enjoy being cross-dressed by force.

[edit] Integrating other interests

The individual AB/DL may have other interests that have become integrated with AB/DL. Sissys are one example. In turn, a babyfur has integrated infantilism and furry fandom. Sissys and babyfurs are among many groups resulting from the integration of side-interests with infantilism. The combinations can themselves be combined in countless ways. For example, there are sissy babyfurs.

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Common Fantasy Elements

Coercion

Force or coercion is sometimes present in AB/DL fantasies. This can range from the inclusion of S&M or B&D play into AB scenarios through to more specifically AB scenarios such as the Diaper Discipline, or Petticoat Punishment in which a supposed older child or adult is regressed into a baby-state as punishment for misdemeanors. This can sometimes form a validation activity, where the AB mitigates their guilt for having AB desires with the fact that they are only in nappies as a punishment.

[edit] Identification

AB/DLs may enjoy looking at pictures showing whom they want to be, as opposed to whom they want to be with. For example, a heterosexual male adult baby may enjoy looking at pictures of men in diapers: he may be imagining himself as the men in the diapers.

[edit] Permanent regression

A common fantasy among adult babies involves a permanent return to a more infantile position. This may involve being put back in diapers or returned to the nursery for the rest of their life. These fantasies may be enjoyed even by ABs who are consciously aware that they would not want to give up their adult lives.

[edit] Exhibitionism

Modesty and self-consciousness are not expected from infants and small children. Babies can be out in public in just a diaper and t-shirt, and can have their diaper changed in public. There are no local, state, or national laws that prohibit adults from wearing diapers, t-shirts, diaper covers, or body suits (onesies). Nonetheless, an adult in an uncovered diaper can expect to be treated like any adult in uncovered underwear, although no citations to support this statement are offered here.

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Practical or Voluntary Diaper use

Practical or voluntary use

Those who wear diapers because of incontinence are probably not AB/DLs. While they may wear and use diapers, they aren’t necessarily doing it to express an alternate self-image or indulge a fetish. This also applies to those who use diapers for practical reasons, such as astronauts and scuba divers. Finally, there are some who start wearing diapers as a "new kink."

There are many that wear diapers but are not paraphilic infantilists or diaper fetishists in the strictest sense. Their motivations and underlying mechanisms are different. However, those who share AB/DL interests and practices are generally welcome in the communities, and may sometimes be counted as AB/DLs.

Other Infantilisms

Other infantilisms

'Paraphilic infantilism' is usually shortened to 'infantilism.' This can lead to some misunderstandings, since 'infantilism' can also mean 'lacking development.' Mental retardation involves never having achieved an average maturity, in contrast to adult babies, who actively set their maturity aside. In turn, psychosexual infantilism, a term coined by Freud, referred to those who haven't "matured" through the psychosexual stages into heterosexuality. Psychosexual infantilism includes paraphilic infantilism as well as other paraphilias and sexual orientations. Finally, regression is a broad term with many meanings. Adult babies regress, but those who regress aren't necessarily adult babies.

Paraphilic Infantilism contrasted with Diaper Fetishes

Paraphilic infantilism contrasted with diaper fetishes

One way to describe paraphilic infantilism is to contrast it with a diaper fetish, and this contrast is most clear in fantasies. Although there is no typical AB/DL fantasy, they often fall within two extremes^[6][7]. One extreme involves the fantasy of being an infant or small child; adorable, sexually innocent, and powerless. The infant fantasy might involve diapers, baby clothes, and toys to help define the infant's role. In the end, the infant might drift off to sleep in a soft crib. The other extreme is the erotic lover. The lover fantasy would focus on diapers as fetish items, sexually charged objects. The lover fantasy would end in orgasm and ejaculation.^{[citation needed]}

Most individuals who have these fantasies do not seek psychotherapy.^[8][9] According to the American Psychiatric Association, if there is significant distress or impairment for a period of over six months, paraphilic infantilism or fetishism might be diagnosed, depending on the focus.^[10] The urges and fantasies caused by diaper fetishes focus on the diapers themselves, while infantilism focuses on becoming a baby. (Please note that many published cases are only tangentially related^[11][12][13] to infantilism and diaper fetishism and should not be confused with the basic paraphilias.^[14])

In practice, the distinction between the two is much narrower; both involve diapers and adults. Those who try to act out the infant fantasy or similar ones are called Adult Babies (ABs). This may involve adult sized diapers and baby clothes, etc.^[15] If their partner is willing, they may engage in mother/baby roleplay. The adult baby may choose not to engage in sex while they are in the baby role, since it isn't babylike. In contrast, diaper fetishes are much more practical. They may involve adding diapers to otherwise ordinary sexual activities.^[16] Those who do are called Diaper Lovers (DLs). Neither are adult baby practices exclusive to paraphilic infantilists, nor diaper lover practices exclusive to diaper fetishists. Many AB/DLs describe themselves as 'mostly AB' or 'mostly DL,' based on which they engage in more frequently. Those with urophilia and coprophilia may enjoy similar practices.

To quickly summarize the theoretical differences, adult babies might have paraphilic infantilism,^[17] their interests are self-image or alter-ego focused, and might refrain from sexual activities during adult baby play.^[18] In contrast, diaper lovers might have a diaper fetish,^[19] their interests are directed at a sexual fetish object, and don't inherently involve roleplay. In practice, the differences among AB/DLs are much less well-defined

Paraphilic infantilism

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Paraphilic infantilism is a paraphilia characterized by the desire to wear diapers and be treated as an infant^[1] or toddler. One who engages in infantilistic play is known as an adult baby (AB). About one in three adult babies is also a diaper lover (DL),^[2][3] so they are collectively known as AB/DLs.^[4] The majority of infantilists are heterosexual males^[5].

Paraphilic infantilism and diaper fetishes differ in self-image and the focus of attention. However, they can coexist in individuals and have some similarities in practice. Neither include a sexual preference for children. There is no singular, archetypical infantilism, but a range. Some fantasize about being free of guilt, responsibility, or control while others might not. Some act indistinguishably from a baby at times, while others practice in a way that would be unnoticed by passers by on the street. The desires and tastes of infantilists vary around common themes of diapers and babyhood.

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Incontinence in Men

Topic Overview

What is urinary incontinence in men?

Urinary incontinence is the accidental release of urine. It is not a disease but rather a symptom of a problem with a man's urinary tract.

Urine is produced by the kidneys and stored in a muscular sac called the urinary bladder. A tube called the urethra, which is surrounded by a special ring of muscles called the urinary sphincter, leads from the bladder through the prostate and penis to the outside of the body. As the bladder becomes filled with urine, complex nerve signals ensure that the sphincter stays contracted and the bladder stays relaxed. This interaction between nerves and muscles prevents urine from leaking out of the body.

During urination, nerve signals cause the muscles in the walls of the bladder to contract, forcing urine out of the bladder and into the urethra. At the same time the bladder contracts, nerve signals cause the muscles surrounding the urethra to relax, allowing urine to pass through and out of the body.

Incontinence may occur if the bladder suddenly contracts or if it doesn't contract when it should, leading to a buildup of too much urine in the bladder, which can cause leakage. Incontinence may also occur if the muscles around the urethra are damaged or suddenly relax or if the urethra is blocked, keeping urine from draining properly and causing eventual leakage around the blockage.

Incontinence affects 13 million Americans and occurs twice as often in women as in men.¹ Although incontinence occurs more often in older men than in young men, it is not considered a normal part of the aging process.

How is urinary incontinence in men classified?

Urinary incontinence may occur for only a short time (acute) or may become an ongoing problem (chronic). Acute incontinence is often related to other medical problems and treatments. This topic will focus on types of chronic urinary incontinence.

• Stress incontinence occurs when you sneeze, cough, laugh, lift objects, or do other activities that increase stress on your bladder.
• Urge incontinence is an urge to urinate that is so strong that you often cannot make it to the toilet in time. Urge incontinence occurs when your bladder contracts when it shouldn't. This can happen even when you only have a small amount of urine in your bladder. Overactive bladder is a kind of urge incontinence. Overactive bladder is a kind of urge incontinence. But not everyone with overactive bladder leaks urine.

Overflow incontinence is leakage that occurs when the bladder fails to empty properly, due to a blockage or weak bladder muscle contractions. Obstructio

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Incontinence and Women

Incontinence and Women by Jane Hankenhof Curry, BS, Gerontologist The stigma associated with incontinence has caused it to remain a “taboo” condition. Women may find bladder control to be so embarrassing that it’s not mentioned even to their personal physician. This silence can lead to unnecessary isolation, loss of freedom, and can have a negative impact on the quality of a woman’s life. If you are concerned about bladder control, it is essential for you to communicate with a medical professional. Today’s technological advancements offer a variety of successful treatments and, for some, even a cure. Women no longer have to worry about embarrassing odors or leakage and can continue an active lifestyle. A myriad of solutions are available to enable independence, enhance confidence, and improve the quality of life. Incontinence is defined as the loss of bladder or bowel control. It is a common medical condition that is estimated to affect almost 25 million Americans. Contrary to popular belief, incontinence is NOT a disease, nor is it a “normal” part of aging. Women with bladder control issues mistakenly think they just have to “deal with it” and they remain silent about their condition. Women may experience temporary or periodic bladder control issues following childbirth, during an illness, while taking certain medications or following a trauma. An assessment by a medical professional is the first step in determining the type of incontinence you may be experiencing and the best method of treatment to meet your individual needs. Your personal physician may recommend that you see a urologist who specializes in caring for individuals with urinary conditions. There are five common types of incontinence, which can be experienced either separately or in a variety of combinations. Stress incontinence is the leakage of a small amount of urine due to sudden pressure on the bladder experienced when laughing, coughing, exercising, or lifting a heavy object. Urge incontinence is a sudden “urge” to urinate that is so strong that the bathroom cannot be reached in time. Overflow incontinence occurs when the bladder fills beyond capacity and urine spills. Women may also experience the feeling of never being able to empty the bladder. Reflex incontinence is an involuntary urination without any sensation of a full bladder. It is possible to be completely unaware of the need to urinate when this happens. Functional incontinence can result from a surgery, restricted mobility, environmental barriers, medications, or mental disorders. Once the type, or combinations of types, of incontinence is determined you are on the road to a successful treatment, cure or effective management of the condition. Diet modification, behavioral therapy, pelvic floor exercises, medications, supportive devices, surgery, and disposable absorbent products may be determined by your health care professional to best meet your individualized needs. The simplest solution may be diet modification or the avoidance of foods that can irritate the bladder. Caffeine, citrus or spicy foods, and alcohol have been identified as bladder irritants. A medical professional may also suggest drinking more water to dilute urine, which may further reduce bladder irritation. Behavioral therapies and pelvic muscle re-education have been found to be low-risk techniques to decrease the frequency of urination in individuals. Examples of techniques to strengthen weakened pelvic floors are bladder retraining, biofeedback, vaginal weights, magnetic therapy, and electrical stimulation. Women with stress or urge incontinence, or the combination of both, have been found to benefit from these techniques. Drug therapy is another way to treat incontinence. Medications are prescribed to correct problems with the bladder or its outlet muscles. These medications may also be combined with behavioral or exercise therapies. Television and print advertisements have made certain brand names and the phrase “gotta go, gotta go” recognizable to many women. Drug therapies are available to treat urge, stress, and overflow incontinence. Supportive devices such as pessaries or bladder neck support prostheses can be placed inside the vagina to help support the bladder, uterus, vagina or rectum in the event their normal placement has changed. Childbirth, heavy lifting, straining during bowel movements, loss of estrogen at menopause and gravity changes during aging may contribute to vaginal muscle loss. Short term devices, such as plugs, block the urethra and provide excellent bladder control on a temporary basis. Surgery to restore the urethra and bladder to their normal position in the pelvis may be the treatment of choice with the presence of certain conditions or when other therapies have failed. Disposable absorbent products are also an effective and convenient way to manage incontinence. Today’s superabsorbent technology eliminates embarrassing odors, leakage, and skin breakdown. Absorbent products come in a variety of sizes, styles, and absorbency levels to meet each woman’s individualized protection needs. Pads worn in underwear, pull-on style protective underwear, undergarments, and full briefs are all designed to address light, moderate or heavy levels of incontinence. Identifying the type of incontinence coupled with the amount of urine flow and mobility level will assist in determining which product is right for you. It is very important to note that not all disposable products are created equal. Low performance products comprised of cotton fluff or products manufactured for menstruation are not effective in the management of incontinence. Bladder control products comprised of superabsorbent polymers offer the highest level of performance and will quickly absorb and neutralize urine. High performance products retain large volumes of urine, prevent leakage, control bacterial growth, eliminate odor and improve the quality of life. In addition, they also offer a cost-saving advantage. If you are interested in learning more about incontinence, there are many professional organizations, web sites, support groups and educational materials to assist you in your quest. Several organization are dedicated the issues of incontinence. The National Association for Continence (NAFC) is an organization dedicated to improving the quality of life of people with incontinence. They offer a resource guide filled with products and services for incontinence. NAFC can be found on the web at www.nafc.org or reached by phone at 1-800-BLADDER. The Bladder Health Council of the American Foundation for Urologic Disease (AFUD) sponsors Bladder Health Week and educates the general public and healthcare providers about bladder diseases and condition. AFUD’s web site is www.afud.org and they can be reached by calling 1-800-242-2383. If incontinence accompanies a specific disorder, such as Alzheimer’s, MS, or Parkinson’s Disease, the organization specific to these diseases may also provide incontinence information. In addition, your health care professional, local library and internet can also provide much more information on this very important issue. Jane Hankenhof Curry, BS, Gerontologist is the Education and Market Development Coordinator for Principle Business Enterprises, Inc. of Dunbridge, Ohio and can be reached at 1-800-467-3224 ext. #223. 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